Question:

Hello! I am practicing feeling my feelings and I love and like how I am feeling as a result, way more grounded, way more satisfied with the moment, more relaxed, more trusting.

Question: What do you recommend when I do feel some big resistance when in someone's presence, for example anger, pushing against, i.e. when my father talks about how hard it is and that we must have a "good job" in the system and be lucky and work for money or when my boyfriend seemingly is dishonest, uncaring, puts me down. Yes they are my feeling/emotion mirrors and I am feeling them now. But in the moment, is there a method to open up and not resist or shout back, or subtly push on them like they are wrong. I find me avoiding them or disgusted by them or blaming them for programming me so negatively and hating me?

Very grateful and I love you very much.

 

Answer:

Part I: When you feel resistance, you know you are feeling your power hidden under the disguise you call resistance. What you are feeling is what you have taught yourself to feel. This is learned behavior, something you choose to experience.

There is no logic in your decision. You didn't make a mistake or do anything wrong.

Since who you really are is so powerful, you couldn't remain in the human if you hadn't hidden your power. You hid the power in beliefs, including those that convinced you that you are not powerful and that you can be demeaned and victimized, particularly by those close to you.

As you approach the hiding places, you feel the energy hidden there as resistance. You call the feeling resistance as a way of dissuading yourself from going near the hiding place.

Now that you are clear what is going on, you can go into the energy, feel the fullness of it, and call the energy what it really is, The God Presence, your real power. This is the process for reclaiming your power.

Part II: The statements you heard from your father, that life is hard, you need a good job in the system, have to work hard and have luck as well, are all beliefs that you have accepted. You are annoyed when you hear those statements, and that is the proof that you have adopted them.

Then you become angry at yourself for having accepted the beliefs.

What I have just described is the ingenious way you have hidden your power and kept it hidden. Being annoyed at yourself for having accepted and held onto these beliefs is self-judgment. That is the technique you invoked to make sure you kept the power hidden. Once you become judgmental, your relationship with whatever or whomever you judge stays locked in place. So the first step in reclaiming the power is to open the energy you have hidden in your self-judgment.

When that energy is opened, you will be able to open the energy in the beliefs you accepted from your father. I suggest you read THE JOURNEY, my latest book, since it describes the opening process in great detail. The book will also help you gain a clearer perspective of your life.

Part III: As for your boyfriend's dishonest and uncaring behavior toward you, he is reflecting what you believe about yourself. The anger you feel towards him is really anger you feel towards yourself.

As long as you blame (judge) him, you are locking the way you experience him in place, and he will continue to behave in the same way.

When you become clear about what is going on, you will be freer to do the exercises to reclaim the energy that seems to be outside of you. In order to see this through, you will require a commitment to yourself. The commitment represents the value you place on yourself. You are answering the question, "Do I love myself enough to do whatever it takes to reclaim my power and open myself to who I really am -- the Power and Presence of God?"