Question:

Since I moved out of state, my brother has assigned himself the role of keeping tabs on me & regulating my life. He is younger than me.

One of the reasons I moved, was to get away from my family. I dread when they call. I panic, I cringe. They want me to let them know when I go out of town.

And they also asked for a neighbor's phone number so they could call the neighbor when I'm not home, & have the neighbor come over to my house to see if I'm at home or not & then call them back & let them know. I've thought about moving to Asia.

I have begun to feel my feelings, to move thru them, to move beyond them. I do feel the power of my feelings & am working on feeling love for my feelings.

I am building up my courage for the next time my brother calls. When he begins to belittle me & tell me how I should live my life, I plan to tell him that he's a bully. And whatever his response is, I will remain calm. I will be silent. I should probably have the song "Please Release Me" playing in the background.

I don't want anything to do with him, I don't want anything to do with my family. I want to be free - free of them.

I have been removing the toxic people & toxic situations from my life. My family is the final frontier.

How can I move beyond my sense of obligation & my sense of duty to my family? What can I do to release myself from them?

 

Answer:

There are a couple of principles that will help you clarify the situation you are describing. The first is the principle of non-judgment. You are holding a lot of judgment about family members. What happens when you judge someone is that you hold in place the energy around your experience with that person. In other words, you insure that the person continues to behave in the precise way you find objectionable. This will continue until you are willing to release your judgment of the behavior.

The second principle is the mirror principle &emdash; whatever you see is a reflection of the state of your own consciousness. In other words, when you look at another person, you are seeing yourself. All the complaints you have about the other person are really the ways you see yourself.

What you are complaining about is really a gift that you created for yourself. If you wish to reach the place where you appreciate the gift, I suggest that you read through many of the prior messages posted at this site. They will give you a feel for how you can see your family members in a new way, which is really seeing yourself in a new way. If you hang in there, and keep reviewing the material I have suggested, you will notice that you can open the energy you have locked in your judgments. You will also notice that you will start feeling better about yourself.

What you are not yet consciously aware of is that you purposely accepted the beliefs you now hold. Your parents and siblings supported you in what is the first part of your journey into the human experience. They are also your perfect support for the next part of your journey, which is opening these beliefs to reveal who you all really are &emdash; God presences with unlimited power, abundance and unconditional love.

Everyone in the Universe is there to support us. Don't be confused by challenges such as the ones you are now facing. The support is bringing to your attention the beliefs you are ready to open up to reveal the truth of who you all are.