Question:

For years your teachings have been a source of inspiration (have read all your books and attended a number of your trainings), having explored many other paths and having tried to learn the lessons life is teaching. Would you please address the following:

Would you please talk about how a person can best follow Principle as it relates to intimacy in relationships? Do the concepts of fidelity and truthfulness have definitions in the ideal relationship between a man and woman? Or do limitations with the idea of "ownership" mean that a person striving for enlightenment would not be concerned about whether their partner is involved with another person? If a woman who loves a man is asked by the man to cover the fact of her affection when in the presence of another woman who regards the man as her partner, is this not untruthful?

Answer:

Part I: In order to play in the human, you have to hide the purity, brilliance, unconditional love, omniscience and omnipotence of your majestic Self.

The solution is to create beliefs that you are less than who you really are. The beliefs act as a disguise, a hiding place, for the truth of who you are.

Think of your Self, your consciousness, as a spotlight shining on all that you see. Think of the beliefs you have created as a transparency placed over the spotlight. You see the beliefs projected upon whatever you look at.

Infidelity, dishonesty, deceit, shame, separation and competition are some of the beliefs you made up. The way this game works is that when you see what you believe as deceitful, dishonest or shameful behavior, you know that you have created those beliefs and given them a reality.

Seeing someone acting that way, such as your business partner, is a reminder that you hold the belief. You have created your partner's behavior as a supportive experience, not as a distasteful and discouraging experience.

There is no value in any event or circumstance other than to give us information about the beliefs we hold. With that information, we can reclaim the power we have vested in the beliefs and enjoy an expansion of our true power.

Part II: Creating beliefs and keeping them in place is no small accomplishment. You have to use all of your power, knowing, brilliance and commitment. And you have done that.

To allow your true Self, your Consciousness, to shine on all you see, free of the transparencies (beliefs) you created, you require the same level of commitment, knowing, brilliance and power that you used to create the beliefs.

You also require the commitment to see all of your creations (and that is all you see) as perfect no matter how "despicable" you have told yourself they are.

Another aspect of being a powerful creator is that you are always creating the perfect support to show you precisely what you have created. The way you create is from your Consciousness. The perfect support is that everyone's behavior is an accurate reflection of beliefs you created in your Consciousness, and are still holding onto.

Any anger, shame, fear, doubt and uncertainty still in your Consciousness must be reflected in people's actions toward you. This is a huge gift even though it often seems like a punishment.

Part III: Whatever we see is what we choose to see. There is no power "out there" that controls anything in our lives. We may use our power to make it seem that there is power outside of us. But that is just a use of our imagination.

How may you deal with the beliefs you have created? First, you become clear that all that you see is your creation. This means everything you see -- from the war in Iraq to the homeless on the street; from the actions of your business partner to your actions in response to his actions.

Second, you accept your creations free of judgment. You created the concept of judgment as a brilliant way to keep your beliefs in place. As long as you judge your beliefs, they remain as a power outside, making you a continuous victim. However, without the invocation of judgment, you wouldn't have been able to stay in the human.

Third, you keep reminding your Self that there is nothing outside of you. All that you see is you.

Part IV: When you consider all of the power you have placed outside your Self -- from cops to cancer, from declining health to death -- you can see the level of commitment you require to open these beliefs up. When you invoke that commitment, the real Power within that you have used to create the make-believe power outside, becomes your ally in reclaiming all of the make-believe power you have placed in your beliefs.

Presently, you are using that Power to keep your life just the way you are experiencing it. You are exercising your absolute freedom to create anything you wish, to create the experience of limitation.

Part V: The Power that we are has many wonderful attributes, such as, harmony, peace, joy, creativity and abundance. There is another attribute of our Power that has an extraordinary impact, and we had to hide it so that we could stay in the human and play.

That attribute is appreciation. To appreciate means to increase. The more we appreciate who we really are the more of that Self we enjoy.

If we weren't successful in hiding the Power of appreciation of who we really are -- the Power and Presence of God -- our human experiences would not have been possible. Remember, we have defined the human as an experience of limitation.

Part VI: When we came to the human, we intended to have the kinds of experiences we have created. However, there comes a time when a voice from within tells us that we are not bound by the limitations we are experiencing. We become aware that we are free to redefine our human experience; we realize that we may live in the human without the limitations we have previously attributed to being human.

However, In order to redefine the human, we must first appreciate that we created our present experiences just the way they are. Our lives, just the way they are, are amazing creations. We are ultimate creators. Everything we create is marvelous.

The creation of cops, cancer, declining health and death, the war in Iraq, the homeless, your business partner and the mother of his child are all brilliant creations worthy of great appreciation. If you avoid this feeling of appreciation by judging your creations, you keep these creations in place in your life just the way you see them.

Part VII: Your life, just the way you are experiencing it, is a remarkable creation. The other woman is really you. All that you see is you. However you see her is how you see your Self; however you see your Self is how you see her.

We are a Oneness -- a wholeness -- that we have made believe is broken into parts. Can you appreciate what it took to make the Oneness that we are into the separateness that our human experience is?

Your business partner and the mother of his child are playing roles you created to give a reality to the beliefs you came to the human to experience. They are volunteers to support you, not nemeses to contend with.

We are all volunteer actors in each other's lives.

However, these roles do not change who we really are -- The Power and Presence of God.

Who we are is unalterable. We can never be other than the magnificent, glorious and majestic Beings whose creations reflect that magnificence, glory and majesty. The opportunity we have is to see the truth of whom and what we all are right where we are looking.

We have, as brilliant creators, classified many of our beliefs as unacceptable, unpalatable and even despicable. However, we may commit, at any time, to use our creative brilliance to:

embrace and appreciate ourselves as the extraordinary Beings we are, and

embrace and appreciate our creations as the extraordinary accomplishments they are.

The support for that process is always available. That is the nature of our true Self -- The Power and Presence of God.