Question:

I was listening to one of your tapes where you said that you are moving to a place of total transparency. A place where you are sharing everything that you are.

Does this mean you share all your thoughts and feelings? If yes, I feel that sharing all my thoughts could lead to problems in my life.

For example, I sometimes lust for female co-workers and clients. These feelings pass and I do not act on them. I believe that If I share these feelings I could be subject to ill feelings, or possibly a lawsuit, from my co-workers or clients. It may also lead to problems in my marriage. I feel it is wiser to keep these feelings to myself or share them with someone who is uninvolved and can respect my privacy (e.g., my psychotherapist or spiritual teacher).

Can you please comment on this matter?

 

Answer:

The perception that we are separate from each other is an illusion we create so that we can have what we call our human experiences. In truth, we are all part of the Oneness, also called the God Presence. There isn't anything we do not know. We just make believe we don't. We play "dumb."

What you call your lust for female co-workers is your love for yourself given a name that you made up to have the experience you call lust. This is a creative use of your unlimited power.

We give names and descriptions to things and they become what we call them. It is impossible for us to be afraid, angry, violent, or all the other states we claim for ourselves and others. We remain the God Presence -- a pure loving entity. There is nothing in this Presence that is capable of anger, fear or violence.

You are creating the fantasy that you are separate from your wife and your co-worker so that you can enjoy precisely the experiences you are having. You also have created the illusion of guilt. Being faithful to your wife and a good husband as you define it is wonderful. This does not mean that such an experience is anything other than your creativity giving you the kind of experiences you choose to have.

Some people choose to have the experience of what they call unfaithfulness. Being faithful or unfaithful are both just creative illusions since all that we see is our Self. There is nothing outside of us, or separate from us.